HOW AN ABUSER CAN DISCOVER YOUR INTERNET ACTIVITIES

Please take a few minutes to read the warning below and to take steps to increase your safety when using the internet and TRYangle's Website.

E-mail:

If an abuser has access to your email account, they may be able to read your incoming and outgoing mail. If you believe your account is secure, make sure you choose a password that an abuser will not be able to guess.

If an abuser sends you threatening or harassing e-mail messages, they may be printed and saved as evidence of this abuse. The messages may constitute an offence.

History / cache file:

If an abuser knows how to read your computer's history or cache file (automatically saved web pages and graphics), they may be able to see information you have viewed recently on the internet.

You can clear your history or empty your cache file in your browser's settings:

• Netscape: Pull down Edit menu, select Preferences. Click on Navigator (this may be a tab at the top or an option in a list on the left). Click on 'Clear History'. Then click on Advanced (this may be a tab or an option in a list on the left. If it's in a list, click on the + sign). Then select 'Cache'. Click on "Clear Disk Cache".
• On older versions of Netscape: Pull down 'Options' menu. Select Network Options, Select Cache. Click on "Clear Disk Cache".
• Internet Explorer: Pull down View menu (in the row at the top of the browser), select Internet Options. You should now be on a tab that says 'General'- if not, select 'General'. Under the title 'Temporary Internet Files' , click on 'Delete Files'. You can also check the box that says delete all offline content. Then under History, click on 'Clear History.' Then click OK at the bottom.If you do not find these options under the View Menu, they can be found under the Tools Menu.
• AOL: Pull down Members menu, select Preferences. Click on WWW icon. Then select Advanced. Purge Cache.

   

  This information may not completely hide your tracks. Many browser types have features that display recently visited sites. The safest way to find information on the internet, would be at a local library, a friend's house, or at work.

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  What kind of help can I get?
  We are not here to tell you what you should do.  Only you can decide what is right for you.  Some women choose to stay with their partner,  some choose to leave and some have already left.  There is no right or wrong way as everyone's situation is different.  We want to help you find out what is best for you right now, so that you can take control of your own life and make the best decisions for yourself.  

  Safety planning
  We want you to be as safe as you can whatever your decision about your relationship. You won’t be able to stop his violence or abuse to you. Only he can do that. However, there may be things you can do to increase your own safety. Our workers will help you to work out some strategies.

  Emotional support
  Experiencing violence and abuse from the person you love can have a tremendous impact on your physical, emotional and mental health. The effects of this can stay with you for a long time. The WSS can help you explore your feelings, understand how your experiences have affected you and continue to affect you, focus on yourself, your own needs and regain control of your life.

  General information
  We have a whole range of information on legal housing matters, children’s issues and lots of other services that may be of use to you.

Is he still being violent or abusive?

Does he pressure you to go into counselling?

Does he try to get you or the children to feel sorry for him?

Does he expect something in return from you for the fact that he is attending the programme?

Is he pointing out to you how your behaviour is abusive ?

Does he use material he gets on the programme against you?

 

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