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Our understanding of Domestic Violence

Some facts about domestic violence

 

Our definition of Domestic Violence
TRYangle defines domestic violence as the systematic use of violence and abuse to gain power over and to control a partner or ex-partner. Domestic violence occurs across all cultures, ages, ethnic groups and social classes. As well as covering physical violence – including all forms of aggressive or unwanted physical contact and sexual violence – domestic violence includes non-physical abuse such as verbal, social, racist, psychological or emotional abuse, threats, neglect, harassment and the use of economic, structural, institutional or even spiritual abuse.

Although only physical and sexual violence and some forms of racist abuse and harassment are actually illegal, all these other forms of domestic violence also have harmful and lasting effects on the victim and on witnesses, especially children – TRYangle takes them all seriously.

Our understanding of Domestic Violence
The work at TRYangle is underpinned by the following understanding of domestic violence:

  • Domestic violence is unacceptable behaviour
  • The right to live free from intimidation abuse and violence is a basic human right
  • Domestic violence is very common – one in four women will experience domestic violence
  • Domestic violence is very dangerous – each week in the UK 2 women a week are killed by a partner or ex-partner
  • The abuser is 100% responsible for his abusive behaviour
  • Domestic violence is not the fault or responsibility of the woman – no woman ever deserves to be abused no matter what she says or does
  • Violence towards a partner is intentional and instrumental behaviour – it’s about a man controlling his partner’s behaviour and establishing the power to set the rules within the relationship
  • Violence towards a partner is learned behaviour
  • Domestic violence is rooted in gender inequalities within historical and institutional power structures in society
  • Men can change – his behaviour is within his control and he can choose to stop – however making changes is far from easy and many men do not have sufficient motivation
  • Women cannot stop men’s violence – but there may be things they can do to increase their own and their children’s safety

Some facts about  domestic violence

  • There were 36 domestic violence murders in the Capital in 2001;

  • Every six minutes a victim of domestic violence contacts police in London for help;

  • Almost half of those subjected to domestic violence will tell someone about their experiences;

  • One in ten of us will have a family member or friend who is a victim of domestic violence in London.

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